*unruly things* and emily post

i have long recommended skipping the save-the-date and save-the-paper instead. i still think a printed wedding invitation is a special and important part of the experience...but no judgment if you do send everything electronically. i know some people feel this is not proper etiquette. but i like to say that the internet wasn't around while emily post was alive, and her recommendations have always been based on good common sense as well as being selfless, rather than a selfish person.

alyson of sunali design can bring beauty to your wedding. and make your wedding more eco-friendly. and save you money too. i am giving alyson the "Eco-Chic Weddings Editor's Choice" award. i hope she approves of my own novice design skills ;)

you can read more about alyson and sunali, as well as an excerpt from my book about mindful weddings on the indie weddings guide...

and as for the great wedding-email debate, publsher's weekly wrote in a review of emily post's updated book "etiquette" this: 

"The original book was considered revolutionary in its time because it recast manners from rigid Victorian rules into behavior that was based on ethics, values and common sense."

read more about emily post here...this was taken from the official emily post web site:

Emily Post was born in Baltimore, Maryland on October 27, 1872 educated by governesses and at private schools in Baltimore and New York. She spent her summers at Bar Harbor and Tuxedo Park, which her father Bruce Price, a prominent architect, had been commissioned to design and develop.              

The season of her debut Emily Price met  Edwin Post, her husband-to-be, at a ball in one of Fifth Avenue’s      elegant mansions. Following a fashionable wedding and a honeymoon tour of the Continent, Mrs. Post’s first home was in New York’s Washington Square. When her two sons were old enough  to attend boarding school, she turned her attention to writing. Her romantic stories of European and American society were serialized  in several popular magazines, and many were successfully published   in book form. She became a "traveling correspondent" crossing the United States by car and touring Europe on the eve  of World War I. Her stories were published in Vanity Fair,  Collier’s and McCall’s, to name a few.

After publication in 1922, her book, “Etiquette”, topped the nonfiction bestseller list, and the phrase "according to Emily Post" soon entered our language as the last word on the subject of social conduct. Mrs. Post, who as a girl had been told that well-bred women cannot work, was suddenly a celebrity, an outstanding American career woman, a position she maintained  throughout her lifetime. Her numerous books, a syndicated newspaper column and a regular network radio program made Emily Post a figure            of national stature and importance.              

Emily Post’s successor, Elizabeth  Post, completed her first revision of the basic etiquette book in 1965 and until 1995 updated four major editions, in addition to other books on the subject of etiquette.

Comments

[Kena]

I've always been a big fan of Emily Post, in part for the vintage charm, and in part for the good old common-sense advice. Her section on weddings, and how something small, simple and within your means can be really gorgeous, is a breath of fresh air in today's wedding industry. Through out my wedding planning, I've often referred back to her advice, as well as to my own grand-parents very simple at-home wedding, for inspiration. What a good idea to feature her!

[Venedia]

My friends just decided to do an email wedding invite and rsvp but they had a unique website designed by mollybdesigns.com to personalize their paperlessness.

[Rodney Bennett]

I guess that this ilustrates the "commodification" of everything...I guess that this "green wedding" stands there on a shelf for purchase along "green vodka" gift sets and "green" anything. Of course I am about conserving everything in hopes of aiding our planet earth, but somehow find attempts at capitalizing on this (such as green weddings, or eco-chic whatever) in line with the very problem that they are vying to control: the relentless search for profit any way possible, through any means necessary, most conveniently through the fad topic of the day. Meditate on it please.

[Dee]

I think being conscious of our use of resources is our responsibility. However, e-mail isn't always reliable. I think that people who choose to e-mail such an important invitation should follow up soon after with a telephone call. I once missed a wedding because my e-mail invitation never arrived and the phone call "reminder" only arrived the day prior to the event. When I inquired about it, I was told, with indignation, that I had been e-mailed twice.

[emily]

rodney: it's easy to sling arrows at people who are willing to stand up and be heard. i wrote a book about something that i thought would help people make better buying decisions. as most writers will tell you, there isn't a whole lot of "capitalizing" going on in the book world. i am simply trying to do my small part to help make this world a better place, and maintain my integrity along the way. that's all. meditate on that.